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The Life of a Mother

In the last 48 hours I have:

  • Stripped two peed upon bunk beds of all sheets, quilts, pillows, etc. (this after just having washed and remade all said bedding 2 days before) Did both boys sneak water bottles to bed or what??
  • Done 5 loads of laundry.
  • Scrubbed an entire bathroom clean of splattered barf. Walls, floor, toilet, trashcan, sink, etc.
  • Administered 4 doses of Tylenol.
  • Suctioned a large amount of snot.
  • Gained 3 pounds.

In the last 48 hours I have not:

  • Taken a shower.
  • Slept for more than 3-4 hours at a time.
  • Remade the bunk beds. The boys are currently sleeping with little blankies on their cold, slippery mattress covers. Don’t judge. Cold and slippery = barf and pee proof.
  • Stopped coughing. Yep… Mom’s sick too.

And yet, I feel horrendously awful even beginning to complain about anything, because of my dear sister-in-law, Kaci. She is 32, has SIX beautiful kids, and was just shockingly diagnosed as having a deadly form of cancer that has spread throughout most of her body. I still just can’t even wrap my brain around the fact – nor can I get it out of my head.  it certainly puts things into perspective. Not surprisingly though, Kaci has somehow kept her ever-positive attitude, is not complaining, is full of gratitude, and is generally in good spirits. If Kaci can be thankful, so can I.

Thank you Heavenly Father for sick kids. Thank you for a fussy baby that just wants to be held. Thank you for sleepless nights. Thank you for throw up. Thank you for a husband who can somehow snore the night away and wake up oblivious to everything. Thank you for peed sheets. Thank you for laundry.

Thank you for the ride. I know I take it for granted.


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14 responses to “The Life of a Mother”

  1. Tami Avatar

    oh and Eve – if you can’t tell, I stole the this format idea from your blog. thanks!

  2. Brent Avatar

    Thanks for letting me snore the night away. You’re the best wife ever! Showering is overrated anyways.

  3. Eve Avatar

    I didn’t notice that, actually! Thanks for the props, though.

    I love this post. I am so sorry about your sister-in-law, she sounds amazing and strong (I jumped over to her blog and read a little). But I just love the idea of being grateful for hard days, I hope I can remember to feel that way when I have a day like that!

  4. Tyler Avatar
    Tyler

    wow. this post was powerful. i do not expect that from you.

  5. Janelle Avatar

    Thanks for the perspective Tami. I needed that. I’m in my “I’m so miserable I’d rather be dead and I’m not going to sit around quietly in case there’s anyone who missed that fact!” point of my pregnancy so I needed a good slap in the face! Thank you so much and our prayers are with your sister in law. So sad and inspiring at the same time. And sorry you’ve had a rough week. Good thing it ebbs and flows right? It won’t last forever… and yet sometimes we wish it would!

  6. wendy Avatar
    wendy

    Tami I’m sorry you are sick. Being sick as a mom is the WORST! But i hope you get better soon, can I bring you a meal?

  7. Kenny Avatar
    Kenny

    I agree with brent, who showers?

  8. Tami Avatar

    UPDATE:

    I’m feeling better – still coughing. But got to sleep ALL NIGHT last night! Lindsay slept till 6, Jake till 6:30, and Danny till 7. yay! I even got a shower.

    Danny is completely better. No more barfing, no more fever. That was a fast bug, thank goodness.

    Now, if I could just get the beds made.

    1. Yami Avatar

      I’m glad you feel better!! this is a great post.. I feel your pain.. some times it’s overwhelming, but the perspective you use is great.. I admire you and your sister in law! that’s the way it should be.. loving life and counting blessings! =)

  9. Joanne Avatar

    I think I had a similar week. Dylan has had strep throat and threw up over the side of his bunkbed all over Luke’s comforter which I had just washed. He didn’t even remember doing it! How does that happen? On another note, I used Kaci and Dave’s family as an example in my lesson in RS last sunday. It was on provident living – joyfully living within your means, etc.. I found a post on Kaci’s blog titled happy that I found so fitting and ironic that I had to print and share with everyone in the class. Then I posted it on my fridge with their picture as a pick me up when ever I feel like complaining about some aspect of my life: http://daveandkaci.blogspot.com/2008/09/happy.html

  10. Krystal Avatar
    Krystal

    I felt a similar gratitude this weekend after the RS conf. I’ve been complaining about the aches and pains, and having to pee ALL THE TIME…and here is a man who is paralyzed and can’t even breath on his own, let alone go to the bathroom. Sure puts life into perspective. I wish the best for your sister-in-law and her family.

  11. Carol Avatar
    Carol

    You, my friend, are a true pioneer. A noble woman with unconditional Love for all. Heavenly Father knows you and wants you to be happy! so even when your cleaning vomit up after your kids, or doing laundry all day while sick with sick children, he will make everything seem a little better… lift your burden some! i have to agree with Krystal, i too came out of that conference feeling so much gratitude for my own life… because Life is grand, and good, and precious!!! Let me know if you want me to make you some yummy food! i would be happy to!

  12. Dad Avatar
    Dad

    Great Blog Tami! How did Mom and I raise 9 kids? … I had forgotten all the throwing ups … some in the car … ugh cars are the worst … especially when driving (it gets you from the rear when you least expect it). Kaci is awesome — we are all praying and fasting for her, Dave and family.

  13. […] of you who follow this blog will remember my sister-in-law Kaci. She is married to my brother David, is 34 years old, has SIX beautiful kids […]

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