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Big and Strong

It’s been a few weeks since blogging, and I feel like my life is slipping by in the meantime. My kids are getting bigger, stronger, and smarter by the day. While I am just getting bigger… but more about that later…

The new school year is off to a great start. The kids have great teachers, not a lot of homework (thankyou!), and we are enjoying being close enough to either walk or ride bikes to school. Jake is in third grade, Danny is in first, and Lindsay is content to tag along with mom all day long. Both boys are missing several teeth, which I love. I hope they keep their gaps and whistles for a long time. It’s so dang cute. Check out all these awesome close ups Brent took. He really captured their genuine smiles and expressions – which are priceless! Some of these are definitely going up on the wall…

Jake is our prolific reader (like Brent, he plows through entire series in a week or two). He loves to draw, write stories, make all sorts of contraptions, do science experiments, and build anything with instructions. He is my creative genius and an excellent student. Jake is coming up on his 8th birthday and is excited to be baptized and start up with Cub Scouts.

Danny just turned 6 and is only one inch shorter than Jake (and 5 pounds heavier). He is easily the size of a third grader. He loves school and everything about it. His enthusiasm for life is infectious and he is sweet, kind, and obedient. Danny always does what I ask and wants to do what’s right. He is not afraid to try new things (especially sports) and is growing in confidence everyday.

Lindsay girl is 2.5 and recently mastered potty training. She is happy to be wearing princess “wears” (underwear) and we are happy to not be buying diapers – for the next 2 months or so anyways. LJ has an opinion about everything and is exercising a lot of independence these days. We’ve had a lot more tantrums around here lately and she’s become familiar with the concept of “Time Out.” As my stomach grows she also seems to get more and more clingy. She makes me carry her everywhere (not easy) and always wants to be on my lap. It’s obvious she can sense a change coming.

Lindsay is talking more and looking more grown up. Her hair is long, semi-curly, and frizzy (my fault) and she won’t let me flat iron or blow dry it. Most days I feel like I’m wrestling with her hair to get it to do something semi-cute. She has the most gorgeous blue eyes though, and can seriously melt any heart with a wave of her hand or a bat of her eyelashes. She is GIRL to the max – the more pink, purple, or bedazzled something is the more she is obsessed with it. And she is still one of the most cheerful, friendly children on the planet. Daddy is as smitten as ever with her. I worry she can do no wrong in his eyes. But really, I wouldn’t have it any other way. 🙂

The kids are all getting along a little better these days, which I am thankful for. They still have their occasional slug fests but I can tell they love each other underneath it all. And that makes me feel like I might be doing an ok job.

I am 27 weeks pregnant and starting to glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel. This pregnancy has not been easy for me. My first two were a piece of cake, this one, not so much. I think it’s a combination of having three other kids to take care of, being older, and my body just being worn down by it all. I have lovely varicose veins all up and down my legs that are beyond hideous – but even worse, excruciatingly painful. They’ve gotten worse with each pregnancy and this time they are out of control. It for sure has kept me humble, on the couch way more than I like to be, and generally not in the happiest of moods.

This is the first pregnancy where I’ve really felt sorry for my husband. I’m exhausted all the time, uncomfortable, overwhelmed, in pain, and an emotional wreck most days of the week. I feel like I am either complaining, crying, or cranky all the time. Or sweating profusely. And doing it while wearing ugly sweats and Grandma style compression hose. Not to mention rarely cute hair or done make-up. Poor guy. He probably wants to just tip toe into the house when he gets home and go hide upstairs under the covers. I don’t blame him.

AND – I can’t stop eating. I am seriously hungry all the time. I feel like this is my hungriest baby and that he is going to give Danny a run for his money. Hopefully that is the reason (and not just that I am a fat cow) that the scale has been so mean to me this time around. VERY mean. Vicious. I hate you scale. And I hate that I will continue to hate you for a year after the baby is born.

Now, have I officially scared every woman away from ever wanting to be pregnant again? Ha. Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer. I realize there are plenty of women out there who have it much worse. I’m glad I’m not them. I am excited for the baby. And I am thankful for an awesome, uber-patient husband who just wants to make me happy. The other night in one of my rants, I said, “Now even if I decide I ever want to be pregnant again – you won’t want me to because you’ll be so scared after this time around… You’ll dread it.”

Later that night he answered back, “You can be pregnant as many times as you want. And you can be as cranky as you want. I’ll always love making babies with you… and not just the making part.” 😉

Here are some pics of me growing Nef baby #4. And for the record, I swear my belly looks way bigger in person. I think in my brain it is twice the size…


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12 responses to “Big and Strong”

  1. Jamie Avatar
    Jamie

    You are pregnant and skinnier than me!!! And you know you and Brent make the most beautiful children, so that’s why all the trouble… it’s going to be the most beautiful one yet! Especially since it’s a baby Chang!

  2. Brent Avatar

    Tam, I think that your perception of your size and grumpiness is blown out of proportion. You are a pleasure to be around and you look MAHVELOUS. I’m grateful every day that I “wized” up and married you. Thanks for sacrificing your legs for our family!

  3. Eve Avatar
    Eve

    Such beautiful kids. I can’t wait to see who this one favors.

    And I know the veins must kill. I am grateful I don’t have to deal with that (knock on wood) and completely understand that it would be exhausting to deal with. You do look beautiful, though!

  4. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    props to Brent and some beautiful pictures! I love those kiddies!!
    and Tami, I haven’t been unpregnant enough to forget how crummy it can feel but seriously, those pics are super cute! You’re probably still smaller than me!! ha ha ha

  5. Jessica C Avatar
    Jessica C

    i’m with brent — you do not look huge AT ALL! you look adorable. and i feel your pain, because this last pregnancy was my most difficult one yet — and i WAS huge. hahahaha. your kids are adorable and it’s fun to see their personalities. ethan has turned into a prolific reader as well this year! he just told me this morning that his goal is to finish the 4th harry potter before the end of the school year (he’s only on book 2). i will be impressed if he can actually do that! hahaha. hope the next few months fly by so that you don’t have to feel so uncomfortable. 🙂

  6. Jen Cairel Avatar

    Aw Tam! Don’t worry, I haven’t been pregnant yet & you haven’t scared me away :o)

    Your kids are so lovely. The boys look like a perfect cross of you & Brent & Lindsay is a blonde version of you. So cute. But you, my friend, look fabulous! You look so cute in all the belly pics. Pregnancy looks GREAT on you!

    And I just love Brent’s comment above…”Thanks for sacrificing your legs for our family..” so funny.

  7. Joanne Avatar

    So…yea…whatever on the looking fat thing!!!! I know the legs thing stinks but at least they can fix that stuff now 🙂 Totally cute pics of the kids. Well done Brent! I want to borrow his camera lense 🙂

  8. Jana Avatar
    Jana

    I think your preggo belly is cuter than it’s ever been. I feel for you though, pregnancy is rough. I’m still not sure if I ever want to do it again.

  9. vicki walker Avatar
    vicki walker

    are you serious? You are the most adorable little prego ever. Absolutely beautiful in fact!

  10. Barbara Cox Avatar
    Barbara Cox

    So glad to see this post. Lovely, cute pictures of all. You look beautiful!! Brent’s comment to you was right on. You are hardest on yourself. Loved the comment about Lindsay becoming familiar with the concept of time out! It made me laugh! And she doesn’t need her hair flat ironed at the age of two!!
    Love, Mommy Cox
    PS You realize these are all miracle babies!!

  11. Diane Avatar

    As my mother once said (during one of my pregnancies), “You look and feel like a moose.” However I don’t think you look remotely moose-like. Seriously- you look great and that tummy still looks teeny. The other little Nefs are adorable. Why don’t you bring them over to play with my kids? You could lay on the couch and watch a movie, or read a book and I’ll take care of the kids! Think about it!

  12. melanie Avatar
    melanie

    you are too funny! You look amazing and your children are beautiful! I can’t believe how much your little girl looks like you when you were little! And your mom is right, the flat iron? ReallY? hysterical, I say this of course with my brazillian blowout 🙂 Still need to get by behind down there and see you!

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